Why? - Double Duty Gags.

I am going to start a weekly post now about "Why?" This is a question I get a lot as I come out to friends as kinky. They ask why I like certain things. The most obvious reason that I find perfectly valid to give is "because it gets me hard, and I enjoy it." We, as kinksters, need no other reason, but I feel it really helps to give a good logical reason of why it gets us hard, and convinces people that kink is not just paraphilia in the DSM-IV, but really actually fun for all!

I'll start this with a piece that I have recently be ogling over the pictures of:



The Double Duty Gag at Mr. S Leather. First off, the gag is a wonderful piece of gear. It's pretty obvious why it's used: first off, the sub loses his ability to speak or voice their opinions losing say of what is going on. Secondly, he is forced to keep his mouth in a somewhat uncomfortable position for an extended period of time, leaving him wanting to do what SIR wants him to do so as to not get punished further. Thirdly, it definitely looks hot! But some great things are missed by these reasons that I quite enjoy.

For me, one of the best parts of a gag is that if it's in long enough, one starts to have a strand of drool come out of their mouth. While shirtless and standing, one feels this strand slowly trickle down their body, and it's a very sensual part of the gag.

Now, the double duty gag, I think highlights all these things, but adds a very new aspect of the gag. With two people gagged tightly next to one another you get this new level of closeness. You can't not look into the eyes of the guy you're bound to, hopeless wanting to kiss the victim, but indefinitely unable to. The sexual tension just builds. In effect, the gag can be used to amplify your desire for the guy you're tied to, and I don't think anyone vanilla would disagree that becoming more and more into your other partner is a good thing. I feel as austere and cold as this gear piece might be, it's something that vanilla people can understand.

Then again, on the other hand, the Dom side of me is squealing for the chance to put two straight guys with humiliation fetishes in this thing together. :-)

Until next time. I wish you...

Gags, GOM and Gungeplay,
Bo.

Background.

My history has me being a hesitant and late starter in the realm of sex; however, in the realm of kink and understanding what this part of sexual agency and identity is fairly early. I figured out that I was queer at the age of 15, and it took a year to learn of the kink-core perspective that I had.

It was a quick change: I went from "hey, that guy in my class is cute." to watching leather fisting porn within 12 months. For this reason, I have felt that kink and exploring sexually many fields is innate in my sexual agency and expression.

Though, this speedy liberation found resistance in my parents. When I came out to them one fateful evening in the winter of 2004, the family's dynamics changed. I was forced into conversion therapy, a faith-based therapist tried to help me find Jesus in order to "straighten" out the situation, if you will. This led me to repressing my sexuality and it all became a form of taboo for a good solid 1.5 years, until I left to go to college. Four years later, the summer after college and after a long vanilla relationship, I actually started to explore my mind's kink. It started with edging, then it went to bondage, and quickly to leather, hoods, well, you get the idea. Plenty on this stuff and details later. Pics included.

When I started, I was fearful. Afraid of the unknown, afraid of what would happen when I took the plunge and listened to what my heart really wanted, and afraid of what others would think about me. After a year of my journey, I have realized how far I have come. Kink and my expression in it has actually been a source of my confidence. I am now comfortable in my (often rubberized) skin.

I think this journey merits a forum to share my thoughts, experiences, and opinions. No matter where you are in your kink journey, drop me a line to let me know.