Communication

So, if you recall my post on electro, I had a Dom that kept me in excruciating pain and generally did not give me that much respect. After that experience, I pretty much had cut the Dom off and moved on. I labelled him as a "bad Dom." As of late, we started to talk again. I finally threw it all out there and said how I felt about the situation: disrespected. I'm fine feeling some disrespect in a scene, but when one puts me into a slave position when it was not negotiated from the beginning, I'm upset. He had not listened to what limits were crossed and when things were too much. Also, I need some kind of re-centering when an intense scene occurs. He apologized, and we continued to talk, pinpointed what went wrong and troubleshooted.

Once specific things that went wrong were found, understood and articulated, we continued to find what alternatives worked for both of us. We found a benchmark and met and explored it. We respected each others wants at this benchmark and it worked really well, and have decided to take that and move further using that.

I think this is a lesson for myself and I want to share it with others. Sometimes with kink you can get too hurt either emotionally or physically in a scene, and be left out to dry afterwards. Kink sex is another vehicle in which two people communicate, and when the sub hurt too much, the communication suffers. This is when one should bring the issue up. Renegotiation must happen in order to make things better and if the two can find a new agreement then it's definitely retrying.

Sometimes a Dom's desires does not align with the sub's at all, and then it is best to just not reconvene, and both should be strong and understand that their kinks do not align well. But otherwise, it's worth trying again to find a good benchmark and then work up. It worked this time for me, and if you're in a town where it's hard to find good kink players, it's definitely to your advantage to not just toss out guys that you already have some connection with.

Until next time, I wish you

Communication, cockrings, and cum control,
Bo

Electro

When I first tried electro this spring, it was pretty terrible. I was in excruciating pain and the Dom was just shouting at me that I was just whining. Well, this weekend I got a great electro experience for the first time. After having some drinks with a friend in West Philly, I got some texts from one of my hot friends saying he was staying in downtown Philly for the night and would like to hang out at the Bike Stop. So I run down to the Stop, go to the Pit, and then meet up with my friend. I talk him for a bit and then talk to the GM Shawn that I absolutely adore, for a good straight...ish man. He's a good kinkster.

So my friend and I go over to his place to play, he gets into his rubber surfsuit and then starts edging me. I start to feel my hole tingling and ask if he has hole toys we could play with. After looking at his inventory, he had a fully sterilized Electro Butt-Plug (he had the medium). I looked at it with two emotions, excitement as I've played with this style of plug before, and also worry due to my previous experience. But he said we could go slow and see what happens and could always turn it off. I definitely suggest doing electro with someone that gives you some control on what goes on for the first time if not the first few times now, and especially with someone that definitely has used it tons on themselves.

He used the plug with the E-232 Power Box. We kept it on "thrust" for the entire session as it was his favorite and I wanted to keep it simple for the first time. We mainly focused on playing with intensity and the time lapse between shocks. The Key : Electro Gel. This really helps curb any pain from the shocks and make it just purely an intense experience. We started slowly and saw how I reacted to it, and built up slowly. The first time, the Sir took me to around 10 or 11 o'clock on the same power box with the Electric Bands (one around the head of my cock, the other around my cock and balls) and once the gel ran out it was just the end of any enjoyment and I just was wincing in pure agony, with no work up to the level I was at and just flatly in intolerable pain and had no understanding of electro-pleasure.

With my friend this weekend, he got me to 12 o'clock with the plug, and I was moaning with delight, and with a minor conversation on my headspace, we moved up to 1o'clock, and he edged me slowly, milking every second. I writhed in delight and pleasure-torture. The shock really focuses on your prostate and contracts everything inside you and gets more intense the more you clench your hole. So this means, the more you're edged and close, the more intensely you feel the shock, and when he stops edging, you feel less and the cock can recover and not get closer to cumming. This boy really knew how to take me to the edge and deny me. It drove me insanely happy. When I finally came, it was extremely rewarding.

So, a few observations for the first time for people in electro: Yes, having electro in your hole might be scarier, but choose that over the cock torture for your first time. Definitely make sure you have a healthy dialogue, and you probably want it to be on equal footing, even if you're tied up for the first time, so that you can say "it's too much" and he'll put it down instead of just scream "suck it up." There's plenty more life with electro to live for him to start Domming your balls off later, make the first time very comfortable and make sure you enjoy it, you do not need to start from the max.

I now cannot wait for my next electro experience. And no, electro pictures and videos do not give the experience any justice. You have to try it yourself in your own headspace and journey to really understand what it does. It's extremely unique, and beautiful in this regard.

Until next time, I wish you...

E-stim, Enemas, and Exhibitionism,
Bo

Why? - CB 6000

Chastity. Isn't sex about the orgasm? This seems like it really would just a hindrance. Well, at one point in my life, I thought this exact thought... but then I started to think about chastity and put one of these things on for a test drive.



The CB-6000. Kink sex is not about the orgasm, it's about what you want to make it about, whichever kink turns you and your partner(s) on. For the people that are already into chastity itself and being locked up you already enjoy this. I'm going to focus on speaking here to the people that are into other things, and how chastity can amplify the things other people are into.

Chastity devices like the CB - 6000 can be used by a Dom to assert control of the most innermost parts of the subs life for long term, namely his orgasm. Also, each time the sub starts to become hard, the cage constrains the cock and quells any hope for an erection, while becoming uncomfortable for the sub. So, the sub is constantly reminded that his cock is controlled by his Dom--that it is owned. The sub becomes more subservient over time knowing that by serving SIR is the only way he will get to cum.

One thing that I find really interesting about the CB-6000 is the idea of being in it while fucking. When one is anally stimulated, prostate stimulation is much more intense when one does not have the ability to touch their cock. The intensity is extended. One can keep their sub not bound but in a CB-6000, and he still has the inability to touch themselves before you want them to, let alone cum.

The sub doesn't even get to feel his cock brush around in his pants, and hence when it gets taken out of the cage, it will become much more sensitive. Also, the buildup will make it even more intense when he finally cums. This makes edging and milking even more intense, and the sub even more desperate to cum, the longer the device is on. One can get the sub to get bound, take the cage off, and do what one wants, put it back on, and then untie the sub.

This last part is a good scenario for a Dom/sub relation where the sub enjoys forced milking and edging. If they are in a fwb relation, the Dom keeps the sub locked up, and the sub comes over once a week to get tied up, edged for a while, come a couple of times, or three, or four... or not at all, and then gets locked up when the Dom is done. Bye! See you next week, same time same place.

I have also heard of a humiliation scenario where a straight boy was humiliated by having a gay boy have him locked up and control everything.

One issue I have found though about this device is that almost everyone that gets into one gets excited when you start to put it on. This makes you have to wait for yourself to get flaccid before putting the cage on, so I suggest putting the ring on first, waiting... and then when the cock isn't expecting it, put the cage on and lock quickly. Also be sure to lube the cock when you put the cage on it. It's also crucial to get the right ring or else the contraption will really make the balls uncomfortable, and intolerable for long play. Another great way to get past the hard-on-while-caging point is once you get into a routine, you can just milk the sub until he can't even get hard anymore, and then put the cage on at your leisure!

I think that's it for this week's "Why?". Leave a comment if you have any other great suggestions or curiosities about this device.

Until then, I wish you

Cum control, Collars, and Clothespins,
Bo

What a boy wants...

I think around twice a week I get a message on some kink site that has a body like this

"looking for a dad?"

While I totally understand that some people are looking for this, many others are not, so I simply reply with a "Nope. Good luck!" While I am predominantly submissive, I feel outside of the bedroom, I want to bring as much if not more to the table to a relationship. I like winning bread, if you will. As I understand it doesn't hurt to ask if someone is looking for a dad, but usually one of the two a week counters and ups the ante with some form of monetary or otherwise proposition, not taking the gentle brush off well: "i could give u anything your heart desires" or "I can take care of you as well as you can imagine" something along those lines. I usually respond with something along "I have plenty of intangibles I need, so I don't think that's true", and usually I get one a month that goes the extra mile and says "Oh but that's what I'm best at!"

This is when I say "get me an offer of professorship at Northwestern and then we'll talk."

The majority of kinksters, I believe, do not live their lives solely surrounding their kinks. Sexuality, freedom of physical expression, liberation from norms, and physical satisfaction are all very important parts of each person's life, but it doesn't define exactly who each one of us is. One of my kinkier friends today said his happiness is what he sees when he closes his eyes and what he sees: biking, watersports (not the kink kind) and general fun outdoor activities.

But it is a part of us. There's something romantic about having your Sir tuck you in at night with a kiss and a simultaneous 'click' of the padlock. It's just how we say "I care for you" in a different tongue. Kink adds a new vocabulary of body language and a new level of conversation between people, but it isn't all of our lives.

A boy can be completely independent in his day-to-day life, and this is one of the reasons I do not want to identify as a slave. What I want is a Sir that can really stand on his two feet and treat me as an equal when it's time for that, but also knows when I need to do my duty for him.

So, for all you Daddy's that don't respect or understand boys' worldwide wishes I say:



Flip off. And for all you Sir's and Dad's that respect our aspirations and want to befriend us and be around us while we achieve them I say:



Woof! Let's play.

Until next time, I wish you

Pup, Piss and Punch Play,
Bo

PS Photos due to/of my good rubber pig friend, rubbaboy.